It’s easy to stand from outside and say “This thing that is weird to me is clearly not right, but this thing that is understandable to me is better.”
It’s easy to stand there and draw lines at your personal discomfort level.
It’s far harder to look past it and see into the soul of the other person and see only the same basic desires and feelings at all levels, to swallow your personal taste and pride and clear the mind of preconceptions and strip away the layers of ‘oddity’ until the inner humanity is revealed.
But when that is done, the mind is freed and a sudden glee takes over. One realizes that all these things that seem ‘weird’ and ‘wrong’ are just facets of the same thing, different answers to the same riddle. One can find fascination in the differences between us. Not just tolerance but a special joy in the multiplicity of humanity variation.
Then one is truly enlightened.